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POST WRITTEN BY: MARC: Marc and Angel Hack Life

Practical Tips for Productive Living

Be true to your values.  Be honest.  Do your best.  Do things that bring you closer to your dreams.  Take care of yourself, your family, and your friends.  Treat people with respect.  Be the person that makes others feel special.  Be known for your kindness and honesty.

In other words, invest love into your life.  Because when you love life, life will love you back.  And there’s no attraction greater than love.  People will notice the goodness surrounding you, and they will be naturally attracted to you.

1. Do the right thing. – Never be afraid to do what you know in your heart is right, especially if the well being of another person’s feelings is at stake. There is no punishment in the world more severe than the wounds we inflict on our soul when we do what we know is wrong.
2. Stop the gossip and superficial judgments. – Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds gossip about people.  Life is much too short to be lived talking about people, gossiping, and stirring up trouble that has no substance.  If you don’t understand someone, ask questions.  If you don’t agree with them, tell them.  But don’t judge them behind their back to everyone else.  Read The Mastery of Love.
3. Lift others up. – If you want to lift yourself up, lift someone else up.  To be happy and free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a waythat respects and enhances the happiness and freedom of others.  When you put faith, hope, and love together, you can nurture positive ideas, relationships, and dreams in a negative world.
4. Give words of encouragement to those in need. – A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.  We all hit a time when we lose hope and need someone to put their arms around us and say, “I’ve got you right now.  You are not facing this alone.”  Be that person when you can.
5. Be positive. – Think positively; speak properly; apologize rapidly; forgive quickly.  Evolve your being and inspire yourself and others.  Say it out loud, “I am sorry negativity, I have no time for you.  I have far too many positive things to do.”
6. Embrace your uniqueness. – If you don’t embrace your uniqueness, you will spend your entire life striving to conform to the impossibility of being someone else.  By celebrating what makes you different, rather than wasting time trying to be the same, you will discover your unique gifts that nobody else in the world has.
7. Do things for fun and passion. – When you stop doing things for fun and passion, you stop living and you start merely existing.  If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind and your actions.  Once you are ready to truly devote your time and energy to what calls to your soul, you will find your life unimaginably enriched.  Read The 4-Hour Workweek.
8. Be gentle. – When you least expect it, something great will come along – something better than you ever planned for.  Mother Nature opens millions of flowers every day without forcing the buds.  Let this be a reminder not to force anything, but to simply give beautiful things enough love and an opportunity to grow naturally.
9. Drop the need to always be right. – Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.  There are many roads to what’s right.  You cannot judge others by your own past.  They are living a different life than you.  Express your opinions freely and politely, remembering that if your purpose is to ridicule or prove others are wrong, it will only bring bitterness into the world.  Respecting the opinion of others, without judging, always carries more weight than simply being right.
10. Be loyal.  Be honest. – You can’t promise to love someone for the rest of their life, but you can sincerely love them for the rest of yours.  When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority.  Loyalty and honest affection mean everything.
11. Be flexible and keep an open mind. – What looks like an obstacle or road block is oftentimes just life steering you in a better direction.  Be flexible and keep an open mind to all the changes that are forcing you to grow, and helping you better align yourself with your vibration and purpose.
12. Believe in yourself and all that you are. – Know in your heart that there is strength inside you that is greater than the challenges you face.  No one can do it for you – you have to choose to use your wings.
13. Believe in your dreams. – Who you hope to be someday is already a big part of who you are now.  Your dreams are real.  They do not exist in the past; they live in the present, and when you stay committed to doing what needs to be done, you carry them closer to reality as you walk through the gates of tomorrow.
14. Walk the talk. – You can make whatever you want out of your life, but first you have to not be afraid to try.  We all have to start with ourselves.  It is time to walk the talk.  Take the journey of making the difficult decisions and taking action.  Start removing things from your life that are taking away your happiness, and start adding things that bring joy in to your life. Read Psycho-Cybernetics.
15. Embrace the possibilities of tomorrow. – Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be part of who you will become.  No regrets.  No looking back.  Just hold onto life and move forward.  We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – that’s what makes life worth living.

Here are 10 ways to defend yourself against negativity:

1. Don’t take other people’s negativity personally.  Most negative people behave negatively not just to you, but to everyone they interact with.  What they say and do is a projection of their own reality – their own attitude.  Even when a situation seems personal – even if someone insults you directly – it oftentimes has nothing to do with you.  Remember, what others say and do, and the opinions they have, are based entirely on their own self-reflection.  Read Learned Optimism.
2. Spend more time with positive people.  You are the average of the people you spend the most time with.  In other words, who you spend your time with has a great impact on the person you eventually become.  If you are around cynical and negative people all the time, you will become cynical and negative.  Does who you are and who you want to be reflect in the company you keep?  Start spending time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded.  Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be.  Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you, people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.
3. Be the positivity you want to see in the world.  Lead by example.  You can’t always save the world, but you can make the world a better placeby practicing what you preach – by becoming self-aware, tapping into your compassion, and protecting your positive space.  Doing simple things like talking about positive daily events, common friends, hobbies, happy news, make for light conversations with negative people.  Keep the conversations focused on optimistic areas the person can relate to.  You can disarm their negativity, even if it’s just for a little while.
4. Change the way you think.  The one thing nobody can take away from you is the way you choose to respond to what others say and do.  The problem isn’t the events that are negative.  The problem is the way you react to those events.  The last of your freedoms is to choose your attitude in any given circumstance.  Complaining, blaming and criticizing aren’t going to change the situation.  It is not always easy to find happiness in ourselves, but it is always impossible to find it elsewhere.  Regardless of the situation you face, your attitude is your choice.  Remember, you can’t have a positive life with a negative attitude.  When negativity controls your thoughts, it limits your behavior, actions, and opportunities.  If you realized how powerful your thoughts were, you would never think another negative thought again.
5. Focus on solutions.  Negative people have an endless supply of pity party invitations.  Don’t RSVP.  Oftentimes people use negativity as a barrier to protect themselves from the world, which in turn blocks them from solutions that could improve their life.  Instead, identify solutions.  Don’t dwell too much on what went wrong.  Instead, focus on the next positive step.  Spend your energy on moving forward toward a positive resolution.  Remember, when you focus on solutions, by thinking and acting positively, sound becomes music, movement becomes dance, a smile becomes laughter, and life becomes a celebration.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
6. Love whoever is around to be loved.  Practice acts of kindness.  It’s a lot harder to be negative when you’re in the presence of love and kindness.  Be that presence whenever possible.  Let your guard down.  Talk to someone you don’t know straight from your heart.  Compliment them.  Don’t anticipate awkwardness.  Just be you in that beautiful way only you know, and give them the chance to smile and connect with you.  Sometimes a kind word and some attention from a friend is all that’s needed to turn a negative attitude around.
7. Provide support when it makes sense.  Some people complain as a way of crying for help.  They may not be conscious of it though, so their comments come across as negative complaints rather than requests.  Show some concern.  Just a simple “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can do wonders.  Resist the urge to judge or assume.  It’s hard to offer compassion when you assume you have them figured out.  Let them know they are not alone.  People overcome the forces of negative emotions, like anger and hatred, when the counter-forces of love and support are in full effect.
8. Realize that life is a series of ups and downs.  Acknowledge the negativity, accept it, and let it pass through your consciousness, thereby teaching you a lesson but not ruining your day.  Life is full of highs and lows, but you don’t have to go up and down with them.  We develop from the negatives when we accept them and learn from them.  This cycle is all part of the human experience.  Relax, let go a little, and enjoy the ride. Read Happiness Is a Serious Problem.
9. Concentrate on today.  Too often, we carry around things from our past that hurt us – regrets, shame, anger, pain, etc.  Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.  Don’t let these negative points from the past rob your present happiness.  You had to live though these things in the past, and although unfortunate, they can’t be changed.  But if the only place they live today is in your mind, then let go, move on, and be happy.  You can decide right now that negative experiences from your past will not predict your future.
10. Let go and move on when you must.  If all else fails, remove yourself from the wrong situations and relationships. Some people are like dark clouds; when they disappear, it’s a brighter day.  Know when it’s time to let go.  Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them, it just means that you care about your own wellbeing.  Every time you subtract negative from your life, you make room for more positive.

It isn’t easy to remain positive when negativity surrounds you, but remember that you have full control of your attitude.  Think of it this way: An entire body of water the size of the Pacific Ocean can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship.  Similarly, all the negativity in the world can’t bring you down unless you allow it to get inside your head.  People who are able to discern the positive points in negative situations are the ones who prosper in the long run.  So defend yourself against the ‘negative way’ and make room for a positive day.

POST WRITTEN BY: ANGEL

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Westfield Home Video Studio Wins Hanley Awards

Westfield, New Jersey – Home Video Studio, Westfield was nominated for 12 Hanley awards given out for excellence in video editing and productions, and came home with its third and fourth Hanley, and the prestigious Relationship Mindset Achievement Award at the 12th annual Home Video Studio (HVS) Convention in Las Vegas, Nevada in July.

The Hanley Awards, HVS' version of the Oscars, recognizes high achievement by studio owners in the video and movie industry. Home Video Studio is the largest international video production services franchise with studios located in the United States, Canada and Sweden. The Hanleys are named after Robert Hanley, the founder and president of Home Video Studio.

Of the 12 awards that Westfield’s HVS owner, Dan Weiniger was nominated for, he won for Best Studio Promo and Best Open House, in addition to the Relationship Mindset Achievement award. That award is given to the HVS owner who most effectively incorporates relationship strategies like collaboration and aligning with community-based organizations to help other community businesses grow.

Last year, Weiniger won Rookie of the Year award and the first ever Social Media Marketing award.

"As a locally owned company owner who takes immense pride in my company’s work, I am excited to see our videos recognized by our industry peers," says Weiniger. "We always strive to provide the best service and the best quality work for our customers, and it's gratifying to know that other professional video studio owners notice this as well."

In addition to being an honored guest at the gala black-tie Hanley Awards ceremony, Weiniger participated in video production training in lighting, audio, camera techniques and video editing at the Home Video Studio Getaway Convention. Weiniger uses Apple's Final Cut Pro (tm) and DVD Studio Pro (tm) along with other video and graphic software programs to ensure the highest quality of work performed. This is the same technology used in the making of Hollywood movies and network television shows.

Weiniger’s Home Video Studio in Westfield provides 27 different types of professional video services. These include video-to-DVD transfers, photo/video montage keepsakes, home movie transfers, videotape duplication, video editing, legal video services, and sports or music scholarship videos.

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How to Win Friends and Influence People… in Social Media

To simplify Dale Carnegie’s advice on handling people, we have taken 31 of his principles and merged them into just 10 groups. If Dale were alive today, we’re sure his advice to community managers would look something like this:

1. Be a good listener - Whether you’re aiming to influence one person, a market segment, or an entire group, feedback is your key to success. In social media, it can be more effective to let the other people do a great deal of the talking, rather than dominating discussions yourself. This way, you’ll be able to gain a deeper understanding of their interests, motivations, and needs. This insight will allow you to formulate a stronger position, articulate a better response and satisfy the needs and interests of your stakeholders.

2. Genuinely talk in terms of the other person’s interests - One of the easiest ways for community managers to engage prospective audiences is to focus on issues that their target audiences already find interesting. It’s difficult to interest a person in something they consider dull. However, despite this, many organizations still use social media to disseminate content that their target audiences find irrelevant. In order to be more engaging, you’ll have to find ways to link your products, services, or social causes to the issues that already motivate your target audiences.

3. Arouse in the other person an eager want - When you are introducing a new idea or proposal, you’ll have to find a way to make people feel happy to do what you suggest. If you approach them in the wrong way, it’s easy to arouse resentment and resistance. So if you want to make a lasting impression, you can't just tell someone to do something, rather, you must get them to want to do what you are suggesting. To inspire internal desire, you may want to let people come up with solutions themselves or foster their ownership of an idea. While this is happening, be sure to praise and recognize all their progress towards the target behaviours.

4. Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely - We all need to feel respected, and often the mere perception that we are being disrespected, even if we are not, can cause a long-lasting resentment. To make an impact in social media, you’ll be more successful if you can make the people you are dealing with feel important. One way to achieve this is by demonstrating honest and sincere appreciation. It must be sincere: Fake complements can cause more harm than good, as many people will instantly spot manipulative flattery.

5. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires - In social media you may, and probably will, often disagree with what other people have said. When responding, you must be sympathetic to the other person’s ideas and desires. Although you may not share their frame of reference, your response will be more palatable if you can frame it within their way of thinking. One way to achieve this is to try and honestly see things from their point of view. By placing yourself in their shoes and showing sensitivity to their views, people will be more likely to reciprocate, by seeing things from your point of view too.

6. Begin in a friendly way - Whenever you need to ask someone to do something, or to deliver bad news, or you need to respond to negative comments, always start out in a friendly and respectful way. The trick here is to include sincere praise and honest appreciation before expressing your message. Also, people are far more receptive when you ask them to do something rather than tell them to do it.

7. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly - If you are dealing with an individual who has posted a comment that clearly contains a mistake, they will be more likely to accept your response if you address their mistake in a diplomatic and indirect way. Even when people are flat-out wrong, they’ll be embarrassed and potentially defensive if you are too direct in your correction. If you must be direct, move the discussion offline—the last thing you want to do is embarrass someone in public and risk driving them to defend their honour by attacking yours.

8. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it - In social media, it’s ok to publicly express disagreements and different views, but arguments should be avoided. By arguments, we mean intellectual wars where at least one of the parties is emotionally committed to winning some intellectual contest, and ensuring their opponent loses. No matter who is right or wrong, more harm will often result from open arguments, especially those in social media. This does not mean you should avoid defending yourself or your organization if it’s slandered or falsely accused of a scandal or crime. It means that if you want to get the better of an argument, don’t argue! Be creative and find another way to respond.

9. If you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically - Though few people or organizations easily admit their faults, criticisms of your person or organization may come from legitimate frustrations. When an organization’s management are out of step with their customers’ needs and values, defending any questionable practice may cause more harm than good. Before a problem grows, address it, fix it, and move on. If you attempt to repress or hide issues your customers find frustrating, your problems may grow, and potentially blow out of proportion.

10. Smile - Believe it or not, the way you look online will impact how people relate to your social media profiles and online properties. Your smile affects how people perceive you in person. Similarly, a friendly and professional looking social media profile can inspire a greater sense of goodwill and trust towards your profile. In social media, you need to present a credible photograph with a profile that demonstrates your expertise and trustworthiness, but that also presents a friendly approachable person, as demonstrated by your smile.

Just think about the last time you've witnessed someone breaking these key principles and found themselves missing obvious opportunities or worse, finding themselves embroiled in a useless conflict. As timeless wisdom, these 10 principles will help you win friends and influence people in social media or whatever technology you use to connect with others.

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How Do I Care for My Camera In Hot Weather?

It's still summer and it's still hot out there.  In my last post I shared tips on caring for your laptop in hot weather, today it's time to talk about your cameras.  Not only would I have difficulty functioning on any give day without a computer, I rarely have a day go by without a camera of some sort in my hands.  This weekend I'll be helping babysit my granddaughter while her daddy plays in a golf tournament.  This will of course necessitate the taking of many photos and video.  I don't want anything, especially the heat, to get in the way of some amazing photo opportunity. So, here are links to some articles on caring for your camera in the heat.  Take a look, take heed, and happy shooting!

• 6 Tips: Keeping Your Camera Gear Safe in the Heat
• Hot Weather Tips
• Avoid Damaged Cameras

What Should I Know About Using My Laptop In Hot Weather?

The hot weather has arrived.  It was 103 yesterday! Dealing with the heat can effect many different areas of your life.  One you might not have thought of is your laptop computer.  For those of us who depend on technology and our computers for our daily jobs it's something to consider.  The heat can have a devastating impact on your computer, just as it can have on people, pets, and other things.  Fortunately there are some practical steps you can take to care for your laptop and keep it fully functioning, even when the temperature hits triple digits.  Below are links to several articles that contain useful tips for caring for  your laptop in hot weather.  Each article seems to agree on the main elements for keeping your laptop safe when the mercury rises.

1. Don't leave your laptop out in a hot car.

2. Don't leave your laptop in direct sunlight.

3. Beware of temperature changes, i.e. going from air conditioned office to out of doors. Give your

    computer some time to adjust to the change.

4. Back-up your data. This is important all of the time - but doubly so in hot weather. Having a portable

    hard drive that you can unplug and carry with you is a great idea.

The articles:

• Heat Kills: 5 Tips For Using Your Laptop In Hot Weather
• Top 8 Tips For Using Your Laptop in Hot or Warm Weather
• 9 Tips For Using Your Laptop in Warm or Hot Weather
• 7 Tips For Using Your Laptop in Hot Weather